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I’ve come to believe that finding balance in life is a bit of a myth for anyone that’s motivated.
If you’re motivated then no matter how much of everything good you have, you’re always going to want a little bit more of it.
If you have good grades then you’re going to want great grades.
If you have a lot of friends then you’re going to want a whole lot more.
If you enjoy your life then you’re looking to have an amazing life.
This constant desire to want more makes balance impossible.
Every time you find a balance you’re going to catch yourself losing it when you realize you’re looking for more.
There is never a moment when you’ll stop and think, “everything is correctly balanced.”
If you’re really on a roll then you might feel like it’s almost right but hitting the correct balance just never happens.
Instead of balance I’ve come to accept balance through cycles.
I will be busy at times.
I will be relaxed at times.
During the busy times I’ll be enthusiastic about it. I’ll push myself and it will feel great because I’m really making big things happen. I’ll feel it and love every second of it because, I know, no matter what, I will allow myself to relax when the stressful times are over.
When the relaxed times come, many motivated people start getting a bit antsy.
They start feeling a bit of guilt for a lack of productivity.
I used to think that way.
These days I tend to think about how many large predators sleep most of the day.
There is nothing wrong with saving your strength and stress for the moments when you really need it. (And through these times, I usually end up doing some of my best thinking. In some ways, thinking is the most valuable work you can do.)
This is the balance that I like to focus on.
I could (and used to) spend my whole life stressfully trying to achieve big things. Those big things rarely worked out. Once I started letting myself stop to relax my productive moments seemed to go significantly better.
Of course, this is my preference.
I don’t think there is too much scientific about it.
(There are studies that suggest short term stress like fighting bears or skydiving is good for you and long term stress like working all day is bad for you. That seems only somewhat related to the point though.)
I’m just saying this tends to work for me. It might be worth giving it a try.
Aaron Richardson took his grades from fighting F’s to Easy A’s. In the process, he read over 300 books on personal development. Today he’s founded 2 blogs on studying including Smart Student Secrets. He’s written 3 books on the subject. His work has been featured on some of the biggest news, psychology, and student sites on the internet.
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