Letters of recommendation are a BIG deal.

They can be the difference between your application getting tossed in the trash and the college admissions officer wishing that you’d date their daughter.

Most letters of recommendation are trash.

They are only space filler. Their only purpose is to fill a requirement.  

But…

With a killer letter of recommendation…

You can make up for grades that barely (or don’t even) meet the minimum qualifications of the college to get your application stacked on the top of their “sure-thing” pile.

By the end of this article, you’re going to know:

1. How to find the RIGHT person to ask for a recommendation

2. How to get them to write a powerful and persuasive letter of recommendation

3. How to NOT submit a letter of recommendation that’s going to get your application shredded

1. Who should you be asking for this letter of recommendation?

You probably shouldn’t be asking the super-popular teacher that everybody loves and is already asking recommendations from for your recommendation.

Think different.

The popular recommendation writer has their letter of recommendations down to a boring formula. The teacher (probably) will write a completely boring letter designed to make everyone just happy enough not to complain.

In fact…

Ideally… you want a recommendation from someone that you have an unusually close relationship with.

This relationship doesn’t have to be perfect.

Heck… they probably don’t even have to like you all that much. (They just have to respect and like you enough to be willing to do it for you.) You just need to have had some time working together (even if it is because you were struggling with something.)

Your goal isn’t to find somebody that’s super friendly.

Your goal is to find somebody that has a good story about you.

You know, that teacher that you had to spend extra time working with to improve your grade? She could tell that story.

Take note:

It’s better if you don’t look perfect in your letter of recommendation.

“Joe is a self-starter who is self-motivated and loves learning. He always does that work that he needs to do to succeed and he is a good member of the class environment…”

UGHHH! It just makes you want to throw up, right? Maybe it’s just me…

All good is BORING!

Boring… is pointless.

Because boring doesn’t get read.

Imagine your letter of recommendation starting with…

At the beginning of the semester, I was worried about Joe…

That college admissions officer is going to read the next line because they’re going to be desperately curious to learn why the person was worried and what happened to Joe to change this.

The power of the letter of recommendation is in the story.

Otherwise, you might as well just be writing a letter of recommendation that obviously won’t convince anyone of anything. To make a difference, it needs to be interesting.

Rougher relationships are much more interesting.

And… even if you think they won’t give you a letter of recommendation…

You might be surprised how flattered someone can be at the request… especially from someone that they didn’t have a great relationship with. (You can get rejected as many times as you like. The college never gets a list of those that refused to write your recommendation.)

Oh… and naturally… alumni of that college can be an advantage too.

2. How To Get Them To Write A Killer Letter Of Recommendation

If you want, send a letter of recommendation author to this article.

If you don’t, here are the key points.

Ask them:

“Please be honest about me. I want them to know who I am, flaws and all.”

Your flaws are what make you an interesting human being (as opposed to another inhuman applicant that the admissions guy completely forgets about as he throws away the application.)

You don’t need to ask a person writing a letter of recommendation to be nice in the letter. They will usually lean towards being WAY too friendly towards you (even if they don’t really like you.)

This honesty will make the positive things they say about you that much more believable.

“If possible, please tell (THIS) story because I think it says a lot about me.”

If the person you’re talking to participated in a story where:

– you grew as a human being

– you did something impressive

– you made a mistake and corrected it

Then ask the person to talk about that particular story.

Stories are great for letters of recommendation.

Stories make an impact. They don’t just check the box.

This is something that most people find easier to write than the usual boring “I like this guy” crap that gets written.

It focuses the person on events (and interesting things) more than broad persuasion.

“This is how the college wants it…”

Give the teacher the college’s deadline. Give the teacher the info they need to submit it.

3. How To NOT Submit A Letter Of Recommendation That Will Get Thrown In The Trash And Forgotten

I know some folks are squeamish about this but…

Whenever possible, you want to read the letter of recommendation you’re getting from someone…

No… not because you should be concerned they’ll say something bad about you… (In fact, like I was saying before, this bad stuff is often a good thing.)

99% of people would just refuse to write a letter of recommendation if they wanted to say something bad. (Seriously… don’t ask people that are genuinely mean. Always ask people you think are good people, even if you’ve had problems with them in the past.)

Then why?

Because you don’t want to misrepresent who you are or distract them from a single consistent message.

If one guy says, “Joe worries about efficiency instead of working hard for hard work’s sake.” And then another guy says, “Joe is always a hard worker.” Then… it kind of kills some of the power of either statement.

In that situation, you’re no longer a relatable human being to the admissions officer.

You’re a question mark.

That hurts your chances.

So… if you’re offered/allowed to read the letter of recommendation then take advantage of it but remember 1 thing:

Never ask someone to remove something negative about you. Never. You can always ask them to explain the positive differently or if they’d prefer to say something differently but when it comes to “bad” stuff… let it stand as is.

If it’s truly an unusable recommendation then you can always politely thank them and ask them not to submit it (or just never ask this person for another one.)

They’re doing you a favor (even if it’s not what you were hoping for.)

But…

What about when you can’t review the letter of recommendation?

The strategy recommended in this article comes with one big SCARY problem…

If you’re not allowed to read the letter of recommendation… then…

It can be super scary to ask a person that you don’t have a perfect relationship with to write it.

Because you’ll never know if they wrote, “This guys an idiot. Keep him away from your school.”

But really…

You don’t have to worry about that.

Sure… Out there… there is one asshole willing to write a cruel letter or recommendation.

But 2 things…

 

1. 99.99% of people wouldn’t waste their time writing a letter to be mean. They just wouldn’t write it.

2. Imagine you’re an admissions officer getting a letter of recommendation, saying, “This student never worked hard in my class and was never paying attention…”

 

It sounds to me… like that student is a human…

At least more of a human that Joe the hardworker/self-starter/intelligent/super-likable guy.

Even if the teacher writes something mean…

It will still be more interesting, more memorable, and significantly less boring than your average letter of recommendation.

And a HUGE part of a great letter of recommendation is just that…

Be remembered.

So… go big or go home with your letter of recommendation.

(And make sure to write them a thank you note aftwards.)

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How To Get A Letter Of Recommendation For College That Puts You On The Top Of The Stack

Maybe She Won’t Notice

D’s eyes were watering at the score on the screen.

He was thinking, “Is this what I am now?”

The score was low. Lower than he liked to think about – and way lower than he used to get.

He was just hoping that his mother wouldn’t ask. He always hated telling her and it killed him worse to lie about it. It’s his mother… she wants what’s best for him and he knew he was screwing it up.

Staring at the score it hit him…

This has to change. On the next test, coming up in 3 weeks, he was going to make up for it. He was going to score high.

So… he studied. He studied for hours that night. He studied until his eyes were closing involuntarily.

The next day… he studied for hours.

And the day after that… he did it again.

But the day after that – his best friend was going through a bit of a crisis. So… he took the day off studying. I mean, no one needs to study hundreds of hours for a test, and he was doing well so far.

But the next day… he was exhausted. And, you know, exhausted studying doesn’t work. So he missed that day to.

The day after, he squeezed in some studying.

And… I think you know how this story goes…

The night before the test, he’s staring down at his study guide and cursing to himself.

It happened… again…

So…

That night he buckled down and studied almost all night. (Until he virtually crashed at 3 am.) Every time he started dozing off earlier he’d get a snack or drink and keep on plugging. He worked. And he worked hard.

He even had moments where it felt like he was running better than ever. He felt like he was going to pull it off.

The test was the next afternoon.

And I’d like to say he knocked it out of the park and D saved himself with his last ditch effort to save his grade but…

I can’t say that.

Sure… D didn’t bomb completely.

But when he was staring down at his score… he was tearing up again. And he still was hoping that his mother wouldn’t ask him about it…

It’s not a number on a piece of paper.

I know… it can help reduce your stress to think that way, and there is a place for that.

But your future, your position in the world, is partially decided by these numbers on these papers. We all know it.

We all want to put ourselves in the best position possible – and these scores can do that for us.

And D knew it.

If you know it then join us.

– Aaron

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D is kicking butt it this semester – more importantly, he’s doing it without procrastination rearing its ugly head.

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